Limits and Disabilities
Let me explain what I mean by visible limits. Imagine a short person. When this person says "I cannot reach the top shelf", they are expressing their limit. Just by looking at this person, you would easily recognize that reaching the top shelf is not something that is within this person's reach. One can similarly imagine a very tall person not being able to sit in a normal size chair or at a normal size dining table. These are examples of a visible limits that specific people can have.
Similar to people with visible limits, there are people with visible disabilities. I would not like to give any examples because no matter what example I pick, even describing it is going to be of discomfort to some people, and almost all humans can understand this discomfort and hence why not to present specific examples, and almost all humans can also understand the concept of visible disabilities.
While we may notice that there are a few people with visible limits and disabilities, we find it extremely hard to notice the invisible limits and disabilities of other people. So let's discuss this topic of "invisible limits and disabilities".
Let us look at a gentler example of these invisible limits and disabilities. When someone says "I cannot write in great handwriting", they might be expressing a limit or a disability. But is it really a limit or a disability? Is it the case that their upbringing never stressed enough importance about them developing the skill of great handwriting, and practicing it? In this example the phrase "I cannot write in good handwriting" is expressed as a limitation or a disability, but in the case of a majority of humans, it really isn't. And yet still a majority of humans would claim this as their disability.
In the above example, if the person did not have some true invisible disability, then what would be the reason for this person to claim such a disability?
It would be useful for such people to think about all their claimed limits and disabilities; in private and honestly. It would be useful for such people to figure out which of these limits and disabilities they can eliminate with some effort. Of these, they can think of which ones are actually important to eliminate; then take sufficient effort to eliminate them. If this process is iteratively followed by everyone, then they would be better versions of themselves. They would be better in ways that is important to them.
When any person overcomes at least one their invisible limit or disability, then they would realize that their limit or disability was actually a belief, not a fact. Discovering that such a limit or disability is not a fact but just a belief is very empowering. Now the person can start looking around at their other limits and disabilities to figure out which one to tackle next.
What we described about invisible limits and disabilities applies equally well to other kinds of things that people claim about themselves. These are claims "I like or I don't like", "I want or I don't want", "I enjoy or I don't enjoy", "I am interested in or I am not interested in", "I think it's fun or I think it's boring", etc. For each one of these kinds of things, it is useful to know whether it is merely a belief, or actually a fact.
Much of what people think they know about themselves is just a belief. This is especially true of the younger people; because they have not had enough time to deal with those beliefs.
Unless one tries hard to prove any belief as false, the soundness of that belief remains in doubt.
There is a lot of progress that one can have if only one can challenge one's own beliefs.
Challenging one's own perceived limits and disabilities is just a special case of challenging one's own beliefs.
These days, there are many resources available to learn about how to do something well, how to overcome certain limitations, and even overcome some real disabilities. There are many devices, gadgets, and software that can assist.
I use glasses to see properly. With glasses, my poor eyesight is neither a limit nor a disability. The same can hold true for your limits and disabilities; with appropriate knowledge, devices, gadgets, and software.
My poor eyesight is a real problem, yet it is invisible to others when I am not wearing my glasses. If even real, unseen limitations can be managed with the right tools, then many non‑real, belief‑based problems are even more open to change.
Many problems can be solved; but only if people want to solve them and are willing to take the required effort. This is especially true of belief-based non-real limits and disabilities.
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